Dear Future Guy,
You may as well run now while you still have the chance. Hurry before my boys realize how completely amazing you are. Run before they learn your name and ask for you to come over constantly …unless you think you can take on three boys in a wrestling match all at one time, or you can build the super difficult legos that say they are made for twelve year olds, but really are made for geniuses, or can handle listening to three different conversations all at the same time. Just run while you still have the chance. Run before I fall for you because I can’t handle another heartbreak. Run before we all get attached to you and can’t imagine a day without you.
Our relationship isn’t going to be anything like you’re used to. I’m a single mom who has her kids almost every.single.day. There isn’t an every other weekend “we” get a break. There aren’t quiet nights spent cuddled up on the couch watching our favorite movie, but there are nights spent playing board games and someone upset because they didn’t win . There are nights filled with nerf guns and someone getting hurt because, let’s face it, someone always gets hurt. There are nights filled with karate and swim lessons, endless amounts of homework, dirty dishes, laundry….oh the endless amounts of laundry.
There isn’t going to be long phone conversations because every mom knows once she’s on the phone all of the kids need something NOW. There aren’t going to be romantic dinners out unless you consider Chick-fil-a romantic. There aren’t going to be long road trips unless you are okay with non-stop fighting on who’s turn it is to hold the iPad and constant hunger because I never pack enough snacks.
There isn’t going to be breakfast in bed because we are all awake well before anyone even wants to eat breakfast. There are going to be times when you think I’m doing too much for my kids or not disciplining them the way you think I should. There’s going to be confusion on how much you should step in and where your boundaries are. There is going to be jumping on the bed, and loud noises in the morning when you just want to sit in peace and drink a cup of coffee. This isn’t going to be easy.
There is going to be lots of laughter, cuddles, thumb wrestling, and endless knock-knock jokes. There are going to be a lot of memories, picture taking, teaching, and love. There will be fishing, tag, picnics, and long days at the park. There will be lots of hand holding, hugging, and kissing because we are an affectionate bunch.
There is going to be breakfast for dinner, pillow fights, taco tuesdays, and church on Sunday mornings. There will be times when you get to see me secretly devour chocolate faster than you can blink (it’s impressive I promise). There are going to be those moments when you finally see all your hard work pay off, and those are the times that will make you want to keep going.
See I know my world is complicated. It’s messy. It’s chaotic. It’s a constant juggling act. So if you aren’t ready for it, please run now.
One Tired Momma